I have arranged to go to Duns Jim Clark 50th anniversary of first world championship.
Now sister-in-law has arranged 65th wedding aniversary party for her and my wife’s mum and dad at her home on the Saturday of the Duns weekend.
Mrs T declared first that we were booked for Scotland and we 'd go. Now sister unwilling to change the date.
Mrs T now committed to her mum and dad’s celebration.
The question for the panel is: Should I go or should I stay?
Please bear in mind that for their 60th Mrs T and I organised a swish secret party at a v. nice hotel which,admitedly, the in-laws later paid for!!
No good asking us, Thommo, cos you know you’ll do as your missus says, come what may! 
Actually, Rob I’ve given my answer, I’m going.
However, that statement may be subject to amendment!
I’d still appreciate others’ views on this knotty problem.
Keep the peace and bank it Steve I reckon mate.
Jonny is of course correct - play ball now, & save it as your future “mega” trump card 
Oh, so “I Am Being Selfish”?
A phrase not used against me as yet but no doubt being crafted and polished ready for use.
I think this needs a poll
Steve, Jim Clark is dead. Whilst a celebration on a particular anniversary is something to savour, you can visit his grave, or even his birthplace, anytime…
Your wife and her family need your support right now and, as has been said, it will get you lots of points.
Yeah, I’m with Jonny. Just lay it on a bit thick with a few tears and you will be able to cash it in for a future event (or two)
65th anniversary isn’t one of the ‘standard’ milestones (unlike the 60th, which you’ve mentioned was marked in suitable fashion), so isn’t something that you could (reasonably…) be pilloried for not attending.
If you’ve already made arrangements for Duns, then why not keep to that and take the parents-in-law out later in the year for a nice dinner somewhere special?
Do a bit of research - there must be a date, eg. birthday, etc. - that would work. If it’s something unusual (eg. the date they first met, if you can find that out from your wife?), then making a fuss for that would be most impressive!!
Mike, thank you for those sage words.
However, tlracer’s view, and I thank him for it, still holds more appeal at the moment. Our wedding anniversary falls on May 12, the day before the mum-in-law’s 89th birthday, so I’m working on a joint celebration for me, Mrs T,and the in-laws prior to their 65th anniversary.
Negotiations with Mrs T are ongoing, I’ll keep you all posted, thanks chaps.
yeah organise a another date to take them out
We know what our other halves are like guys. I dont think its the in laws that are a problem here, it the other half. We know how they remember this stuff. And we all know “no, I dont mind you going to your non family orientated car event with your mates” really means “go anywhere but with me to my folks’s bash and you wont be seeing those sexy, lace, crotchless panties you like so much, for a bloody long while”
What makes you think that Mrs T wears such things?
I told him!
You never fail us, Mr P
alternatively you could go to neither. that way everyone will be pi$$ed off.
its a win-win 
Well, that’s an option I had not considered.
May i suggest you don’t spend too long considering it then? 
The pressure is easing. Thankfully, Mrs T and I plan to take the aged relatives out for what the national newspapers used to call “a slap-up lunch” on the Friday of their anniversary, leaving the coast clear for my early escape to Scotland. Mrs T has done something of a u-turn and is willing to miss out on the Scots trip( although genuinely disappointed) and mother-in-law is quite happy that I should head for the the hills.
Thanks chaps for your input. Phew!
I am glad to see that I am not the only one who has faced such a dilemma!
Women eh!
Just as well I am an Ozzy… !